After a week of the ex-h being off the grid (I figured out where he was at based on my sleuthing) tonight he “asks” me if it’s okay that he takes our daughter to his girlfriend’s house 5 states away for Christmas. We have 4 kids together, but he only wants to take the oldest because he “has one free ticket”. I cannot even begin to explain how infuriating this is to me. First of all, he has a 10 year old son that he promised to take to a Russell Wilson Meet and Greet (oops, escaped his memory) forgot middle son’s 12th birthday (It’s at an odd time of the year) and has blatantly ignored all of oldest son’s messages, texts and emails (no explanation necessary.)